We get so offended when we feel we have been backed stabbed but do we ever think about our own role in the event? Honestly, we are the ones who opened up door and trusted someone hoping they wouldn’t stab us in the back but we alone gave them the ammunition to do so, didn’t we?
If we aren’t acting from love we are acting from fear and there are many forms of fear to act out of. Have you ever looked up how many words in the English language that represent Love compared to the words that represent Fear? It is such an enormous difference no wonder why it seems so natural for us to live from fear. Fear is what can destroy us. Fear is what destroys relationships. Everyone is so insecure, they betray others to try to feel bigger and better about themselves, but the funny thing is….they don’t!
Have you ever been approached by someone who has been hurt and listened to their story? Of course we have but have you ever thought to yourself what the ‘other’ side of this story might be? You may even have some good proof or documentation that supports the hurt of the person but more times than not you are only getting half of the facts, half of the story but yet you are so quick to form a judgment. A judgment that isn’t is your place to form. It is all in our ego. Our thoughts can distort the truth to validate or justify a person’s hurt or anger. This is not what love does. This is not what our higher power does. And mostly this will not bring us to our true selves. In order to follow your soul’s purpose we MUST see things through love and ONLY love.
Judgment defined is the evaluation of evidence to make a decision- opinions expressed as facts. I believe the key word here is Opinions. Opinions and emotions can distort the facts.
People often times say they don’t put judgment on others but yet they do. There is judgment everywhere. So much so that many of us are insecure or afraid to be who we are. We constantly live our lives trying to be something we aren’t. We live from a place of fear which in return causes heartache, suffering, shame and guilt. This causes us to do things, act on things or even react to things in a way that doesn’t allow ourselves to be true to who we are. Mainly because we have lost who we are along the way. It opens up a constant struggle on our values and our beliefs. People will find multiple justifications for their behaviors. If someone they feel has wronged them in any way they are quick to respond back with retaliation. They want to wrong the other person to make them feel better about what they have done. This causes a vicious cycle of emotional behaviors that aren’t based on all the facts or based on distorted facts. Do you ever wonder what a situation could look like if people stopped playing the victim and started owning up to their part in the situation? We are NOT victims in fact we are main character in our own stories and we all play the main role.
I encourage you the next time someone comes to you with a concern, hurt or frustration to yes listen to what they have to say but also take into consideration that there is ALWAYS more to the story and that it is NOT in your place to put judgment on any situation. Imagine what would be like to receive what you are sending. Then, take it to the next step. Decide ahead of time what you would like to recieve…and send it. Karma simply put, our deeds, thoughts and words return to us sooner or later and they do so with astounding accuracy.