Are you good at telling your own stories even if they are the wrong story to tell? Are you telling the same story over and over trying to get a different response either from yourself or from others around you? Or how about do you feel you get told great stories from others but then feel they fail to back up their story with actions? How would you like to change the stories you telling to get the life you want? I have the secret although it really isn’t a secret. GET OUT OF YOUR OWN HEAD!
Yes, it’s time to get down and dirty. The only reason you aren’t getting the life you want is because you are telling yourself the wrong story. Plain and simple. On that note as well if you find that you are one to quickly believe someone else’s story without having the actions to back it up that as well is you needing to get out of your own head. Truth be told. Your outside world is a reflection of your inner world and if you are a great story teller to yourself you are going to be attracted to great story tellers as well.
I am not going to sugar coat this or make this seem ok by any means. You are Self-Sabotaging yourself! You are playing the victim role. Quit playing the blame game and start taking responsibility for your own actions. Yes I know, everyone hates to admit their part in anything which is why it is so easy to play the victim. When we play the victim we get to blame everyone or everything else that is going wrong with our own lives. But did you read the last part of that sentence? OUR OWN LIVES!! That’s right it is your own life so YOU and ONLY YOU are responsible for what you create.
Trust me when I say this. I was the queen of the victim role. Whether it dealt with a relationship, friendship, environment, job, etc. I blamed it all. That way I didn’t need to look at what was really going on. And what was really going on is that I didn’t love myself. I didn’t trust myself. I didn’t have any sense of self to stand up on. The moment I decided to stop playing the victim role was probably the most terrifying experience. It was the moment I could no longer blame anyone else for how I felt, for what my life had come to, and for the choices I had been making. So I get it. I get that playing the victim role is so much easier. I will tell you this however, the moment I started taking responsibility for my life, I GOT MY LIFE BACK!
This has been an ongoing journey and one that is not mastered but it is a work in progress and every day it gets easier and easier. I no longer look to others to ‘fix’ my life. I look to myself and ask what can I do to change this outcome? How can I chose to see or react to this differently?
The moment you step out of the victim role you can begin to start telling yourself some new stories. Stories of things you want instead of stories of why something is not working. When you step out of the victim role you also allow others to step out of it as well. You listen to their story. You get to decide if it is a good story and a story worth seeing if it comes to light. Or you can chose to listen to their story and go the other direction. Either way, YOU CHOSE!
What will you decide to choose?