Story Telling– What story are you telling yourself?

Are you good at telling your own stories even if they are the wrong story to tell?  Are you telling the same story over and over trying to get a different response either from yourself or from others around you?  Or how about do you feel you get told great stories from others but then feel they fail to back up their story with actions?  How would you like to change the stories you telling to get the life you want?  I have the secret although it really isn’t a secret.  GET OUT OF YOUR OWN HEAD!

Yes, it’s time to get down and dirty.  The only reason you aren’t getting the life you want is because you are telling yourself the wrong story.  Plain and simple.  On that note as well if you find that you are one to quickly believe someone else’s story without having the actions to back it up that as well is you needing to get out of your own head.  Truth be told.  Your outside world is a reflection of your inner world and if you are a great story teller to yourself you are going to be attracted to great story tellers as well.

I am not going to sugar coat this or make this seem ok by any means.  You are Self-Sabotaging yourself!  You are playing the victim role.  Quit playing the blame game and start taking responsibility for your own actions.  Yes I know, everyone hates to admit their part in anything which is why it is so easy to play the victim.  When we play the victim we get to blame everyone or everything else that is going wrong with our own lives.  But did you read the last part of that sentence?  OUR OWN LIVES!!  That’s right it is your own life so YOU and ONLY YOU are responsible for what you create.

Trust me when I say this.  I was the queen of the victim role.  Whether it dealt with a relationship, friendship, environment, job, etc.  I blamed it all.  That way I didn’t need to look at what was really going on.  And what was really going on is that I didn’t love myself.  I didn’t trust myself.  I didn’t have any sense of self to stand up on.  The moment I decided to stop playing the victim role was probably the most terrifying experience.  It was the moment I could no longer blame anyone else for how I felt, for what my life had come to, and for the choices I had been making.  So I get it.  I get that playing the victim role is so much easier.  I will tell you this however, the moment I started taking responsibility for my life, I GOT MY LIFE BACK!

This has been an ongoing journey and one that is not mastered but it is a work in progress and every day it gets easier and easier.  I no longer look to others to ‘fix’ my life. I look to myself and ask what can I do to change this outcome?  How can I chose to see or react to this differently?

The moment you step out of the victim role you can begin to start telling yourself some new stories.  Stories of things you want instead of stories of why something is not working.  When you step out of the victim role you also allow others to step out of it as well.  You listen to their story.  You get to decide if it is a good story and a story worth seeing if it comes to light.  Or you can chose to listen to their story and go the other direction.  Either way, YOU CHOSE!

What will you decide to choose?

Imagine This…..

Imagine this…. Your ego is kicked on high. Your inner critic is telling you all sorts of false statements like… You will never get to where you want to go, you aren’t good enough, you aren’t pretty enough, he or she will never like you, etc

Now imagine what it would feel like to have the tools and resources to quickly turn that ego off. To be able to get to a peaceful place of your higher self easier. Your ego will always be there trying to get the best of you. Trying to keep you vibrating lower. Imagine having the self confidence to go about your day from a place of love instead of fear.

My program and readings can do just that. Spiritual guidance only comes from a place of love. Feel better about the direction your life is going. Feel better emotionally and mental and you will even begin to feel better physically. When our inner world is out of balance our outer world will continue to show us how our inner world is reflecting outwards.

Stop self-sabotaging yourself, stop putting others worth before your own, stop beating yourself up. I can help and I am guided to help. You are worth this investment. You are worth showing the universe you have decided to stop settling and start creating.

Say YES to you. Contact me it will be the best investment you can make! Love and Light Xx

Journey to Self-Worth and Self-Love

Did you know that every person has an equal amount of negative qualities about themselves as they do positive qualities?  These numbers have to be equal.  You can’t have one without the other.  They go hand in hand.  Did you further know that you can take a negative quality and ‘flip it’ into a positive.  WOW!  What an amazing feeling, isn’t it?  Here is an example…. I am OVERLY SENSITIVE.  I hate this about myself.  I take things too personally, I am very hard on myself, and I feel let down quite often.  Now let’s flip it and turn it into a positive.  I LOVE so deeply.  I love BIG!  So you see I can’t love as big as I do without being overly sensitive.  When I look at it this way it makes me embrace the fact that I am overly sensitive.  When I was younger I used to get so mad at myself for caring so much.  I would tell myself to just get some tough skin but as I have grown older I have come to appreciate this quality about me.  Because of this I am able to touch other people in ways many cannot. I have often been told by friends that they wish they could love as big as I do.  I love without condition, I love selflessly, it is pure.  I am currently in the process to write down all the negative qualities I think about myself so then I can ‘flip’ them.  How Empowering?!  I encourage you all to do the same and see what you come up with.  Your energies about your own self-worth will change and allow more self-love to shine through.  It isn’t as easy as it sounds though. It will take effort.  You may get discouraged and want to give up.  If this happens simply just take a break and come back to it.  It doesn’t matter how often you need to come back to it, what matters is that you are doing it.  You can also take it one step further and share it with a loved one.  For me the feeling of connection plays a powerful role in me ‘Doing the Work’.  If I know I am going to share it with someone I am more apt to finish.  Not to mention having the extra support and encouragement is priceless.

I get told very often I am too intense, too emotional, too sensitive, too much for people.  I now LOVE all of these qualities about myself.  They are all my core gifts.  They are what separate me from the crowd.  I chose to no longer try to ‘fit in’ with the crowd but to pave my own path.  My goal in life is to speak to as many people as I possibly can and to touch as many lives and hearts as I possibly can.  These core gifts are where my passions stem from.  I wouldn’t be able to be a passionate motivational speaker, spiritual empowerment coach or psychic without these characteristics.  Realizing this didn’t just happen over night.  It was a day by day process.  This process consisted of falling down quite a few times in order to see the light.

What are your core gifts?  What are your passions?  What excites you?  If you aren’t aware I encourage you all to dig in deep and find out.  When you look deep into your soul and listen quietly to your thoughts without ego that is where you will find them.  Each and everyone of us has core gifts.  We all have a spot in the Universe that has our name on it.  No one else can take that spot.  So get in tune with yourself and get moving towards your spot.  It is there for the taking.

Finding your sense of purpose through a psychic reading

Ever been on an Ego Trip?

Have you ever been starring up into the blue sky marveling at the vastness of the world, and found yourself wondering, what am I supposed to do with my life?

Or maybe you felt really excited about doing something, but weren’t really quite sure how?

Or maybe you doubted that you could even accomplish it at all?

These thoughts often return to us over and over again in our lifetime.  They may change, grow, or disappear for a time, but deep within our core they continue to nag at our hearts.

Often I have found that people don’t act on these thoughts because we don’t feel we are capable or have a clear understanding about what to do so we tend to do nothing at all. When we do nothing, we chose to stay in this energetic space of static.

You see, it is the confusion of staying in the not knowing, which is the part of us that comes from the ego that creates the fear that holds us stagnant.

The ego likes to keep our thoughts busy and our doubts high so that we are always in a place of reacting to life instead of creating life. When you begin to create your life with spirit the ego puts blocks up, and these blocks can be what is keeping us from moving forward.

This is what I refer to as ego tripping (a term I picked up from Gabby Bernstein).  When you are ego tripping you are in a place of panic and distress.

You can feel your obstacles become stronger, and the more you struggle, the more you listen to spirit. This is when you need to fight the ego off even harder. This is when you must turn away from the ego.

This is very clear to me when I am conducting my readings to those who are looking for a greater sense of purpose, they bring clarity to their dreams, passions and desires.

Psychic readings offer loving advice on how you can reach your highest potential. When you are given direction from spirit you are calm and at peace with the steps to take.

What I have found to be true is:

It is only when we can allow spirit to truly guide us that we find our truth.

It is when we connect with spirit that we are lovingly guided to know what we need to do and what it is we are meant to do.

This is one place where a Psychic reading can support you. During a reading you receive the tools through guided messages form your spirit guides that will help you to keep that ego at bay.

Now I am not saying that you will never hear ego again but what I am saying is that spirit will give you tools so that when the ego does show up you can quiet it faster.  The faster you are able to quiet the ego down, the stronger your soul speaks.

When you let your soul speak you let your passions shine through and that is the pivotal point in which you begin to transform your life.

What is it you desire?  What is your sense of purpose?  Not sure….. That’s where I can help.

Contact me  for a reading  at www.pathwaystopeacehealing.com/book-appointment and let spirit guide your way.

The Act of Forgiveness

Are you someone who holds on to hurt, resentments, or anger maybe?  How does that make you feel?  This is when we call onto the virtue of forgiveness.  Forgiveness is another way to bring peace to our soul.  It allows us to let go, so that we can move on.  I am one to know how hard it is sometimes to forgive others of their actions at times.  Most of us know that holding onto the hurts really only affect our happiness.  So why hold onto this hurt?  Why hold onto resentments or anger?  Sometimes you want to hold onto them because you feel that it will make the other person possibly hurt more than you do.  The person who has hurt us probably isn’t even thinking about how they hurt us or how much anger we may be holding.  This is where we need to just let go.  We need to somehow release all this negative emotion so that it frees us to welcome in peace, healing and happiness.  Yes, trust me I know how hard this can be at times.  A couple years ago I was faced with in my eyes an ultimate betrayal.  My best friend at the time, and I mean the person I did EVERYTHING with hurt me in a way I never thought possible.  I was crushed.  I just remember sitting on my couch with both of my children on each side of me holding my hand while I cried.  I was in a state of shock for days, even weeks.  I felt like my brother died all over again.  I had given this person so much power over my life.  She was my first phone call on my way to work every day and my last phone call on my way home.  Anytime I needed to confide in someone it was her.  After days of hurting, of anger, of heartbreak I finally decided to take the power of my life back.  I decided to let go and forgive her.  Was it easy? NO!  Did it take me reminders? YES!  I realized holding on to the pain was really only affecting me from living again.  Once I was able to truly pick myself back up and let go.  There was an immense sense of peace and hope that enveloped around me.  By no means did my forgiveness of her actions allow her a space in my heart and life again but it did bring me back to life again.  In fact, it lead me to the start of finding myself again.  I found a passion within me that I hadn’t known before and to this day this passion is alive and well inside me.  It is my passion for bodybuilding.  So it took me getting knocked down to bring me to the path I was meant to follow.  Now that is a blessing in itself.  It’s funny because now I look back at this situation and as much hurt as I felt I now look at if with gratitude.  I am not sure I would have found my path of bodybuilding without this happening.  So the long and short of this message is to remember the next time someone hurts you intentionally or not, acknowledge the hurt, feel the hurt but don’t hold on to the hurt.  Release it and bring peace to yourself.  Forgiving others is not to forget but to remember how to live again.  After all Forgiveness is a Virtue.

Persevere–Just when you think you can’t, You CAN!

Everyone has a dream.  Some look to their dreams as just dreams and dreams alone.  Never thinking it could amount to anything therefore never taking the steps to possibly achieve that dream.  Others look at their dreams as goals.  They not only dream about it, they let the dream take root within themselves.  They realize that the dream goes beyond just thinking.  They start looking at the steps needed to achieve such a dream/goal.  They visualize themselves achieving that dream and finally they believe they can accomplish it.  But what happens when something or someone happens to cause you to doubt this dream.  Whether it be a setback, or someone telling you that you can’t there is one and only one word that comes to mind….. Persevere!  Perseverance definition: continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition.  No matter what the obstacle, no matter what others say this is when we reach down deep, we discover new strengths and set new limits.  It was May 2012  that I was faced with not just one major setback but two.  I had come off of 3 bodybuilding competitions and after months of dieting and depleting water 3 times in the matter of 5 weeks my body rebelled on me.  I gained 17 pounds of water retention in just 4 days.  I was in so much pain and discomfort from the swelling it took me into the doctor’s office which led to me getting on a very intense diuretic to try and shed the water.  While it helped some after the 10 days my body still rebelled and I needed to go on a diuretic that I could take for a longer period of time in hopes that my body would somehow normalize.  My severe edema led into my body going into a state of adrenal fatigue.  Adrenal Fatigue is when your body is unable to produce the adequate quantities of hormones leading to adrenal insufficiency.  On top of my battle with adrenal fatigue,  I was outside running one day at lunch and while in a crosswalk I was hit by a car making a right hand turn.  This accident led to a sprained ankle, multiple contusions, pulled quad and groin muscles not to mention my back was really messed up and still is to this day.  I was in the process of an offseason training through all of this.  My goal was to switch from being a bikini level competitor to a figure level competitor.  I needed to add a good amount of muscle to do this.  While the process of ‘bulking’ to begin with can lead to mental anguish in itself top it off with these two setbacks and I felt lost.  I hit a complete low.  I questioned myself daily.  I found myself is a state of depression and felt like I hit bottom.  Although I was having these thoughts and quite discouraged I still was determined to make my goal come true.  I was on crutches for about a month.  I still went to the gym and trained my upper body through it all.  I couldn’t train legs nor do cardio but I was hell bent that I was NOT going to let this stop me.  Even though I still trained as best I could I found myself still gaining weight and still flare ups of swelling.  I had reached a high in my weight that made me so uncomfortable in my own skin I started to pull away from others so I wouldn’t have to feel insecure.  It wasn’t until a weekend spent with my team that my trainer saw how much I was struggling and we decided at that time after the trip it was time to switch things up.  My cardio endurance was low considering not being able to do cardio for about 2 months.  I slowly started to get my endurance back.  Cardio was increased and training was getting easier.  I was able to lose 10 pounds in a month.  That help to build my self-confidence back and helped me to gain sight of really accomplishing this goal.  I fought hard, I was determined, and I disciplined in every possible way I needed to be.  I PERSEVERED!!!  In about 6 months I was able to add 12 pounds of lean muscle mass and lean out.  I competed in my first two figure shows on March 2013 & April 2013.  I did it!!  Just switching divisions alone is a task at hand but being able to switch divisions faced with setbacks makes my goal a VICTORY!!  If you are truly passionate about something NEVER give up! Keep fighting, Keep believing, and Keep going.  I turned my setback into a comeback and you can too.

Just a Little Stress Relief as the Holidays are Near

 

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Happy Holidays!  Well to some, right? For some the holidays bring up deep seeded emotions and stress which turns this blissful time of year into a nightmare they would just rather sleep through.  This time of year is meant to bring families together in Divine Love but if you are at odds with your family, or have a loved one who has went home to God the holidays could bring sadness and pain.

So whether you are someone who loves or hates the holiday here are some simple tips to get you through your holiday with more love and peace.

  1. The first step in any healing is acknowledgement. You must acknowledge what it is you are feeling so you can accept it and heal from it.  Realize that it is OK to feel whatever it is you are feeling.  It’s OK to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can’t force yourself to be happy just because it’s the holiday season.  Also, realize that it is normal to feel sad around this time of year especially if you have lost a loved one.
  2. Don’t isolate yourself. Reach out to others.  Get involved in some way.  There are many families in need this time of year and one of the best ways to get through feelings of sadness is to help others.  Volunteer for a cause that is deep to your heart.  Help someone else enjoy the feelings of love and hope.
  3. Give any situation Grace. With all the added pressure and stressors sometimes people don’t behave from their higher self.  This is not your place to judge or to condemn.   It is your place to offer grace to them and send them divine love and peace.  Remember that you don’t walk in their shoes.  Who knows what they might be going thru.  Even if you think you know remember the possibility that you really don’t know how they are feeling, how it is truly effecting them, and if they might already be beating themselves up enough.  See the innocence and you will bring peace to your soul.
  4. Don’t try to be something you are not. Meaning stick to your budget and remember that your budget is different than others and love yourself enough to know that you are doing what you can and that is the best that anyone can do. It isn’t about feeling bad if you are not able to buy what you would like to for someone.  You know that isn’t what Christmas is about anyway.  Do what you can but most importantly just be love.  Love is more abundant than any gift is anyway.
  5. Take time for yourself. During the holidays there are many gatherings, many To Do lists, and crowds and crowds of people.  Make sure you are taking time to nurture yourself and your soul.  You need to find time every day to have some quiet time just for you.  Whether it be in a workout, reading a book, meditating or watching a movie.  Embrace that ‘you’ time.  You deserve it.

I hope these little tips help you out.  So often we leave our soul to be last on our list to nourish and it needs to come to the front of your list.  It is a fact that when your soul is nourished you are coming from a place of higher self and everything else seems to flow better no matter what the circumstance.

“Where there is love there is life” Gandhi

And don’t forget to Believe ~

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